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Friday, July 16, 2010

Thursday 15th and Friday 16th July

We were awake bright and early this morning at 6 a.m! Luckily I had gone to sleep at 10 and Abi was only up a couple of times during the night so I slept fairly well.

I decided that we're having a day at home today because we were out yesterday and we're going out tomorrow so it's good to have a day just chilling. Going out in India is so much harder than going out in UK. Things just seem to take so much longer, I guess the traffic being horrendous doesn't help but even just going to the supermarket takes twice as long! Also, the heat really wears you out and even just a trip out for a couple of hours leaves us all exhausted. So, as I was saying I decided to stay in today.

We had a fairly uneventful morning and just played and watched some TV and tidied up a bit. I put up the first one of the posters from Laura in DJ's room. It had to be the Peppa Pig one! We decided that we are going to put the majority of the posters in Abi's room as that is going to be the playroom but I couldn't not put the Peppa one in his room. He loved it and spent ages looking at it, naming the characters and pointing things out on it. It was so funny, when Raj Kumar was cleaning DJ's room in the afternoon, he pointed at the poster which has ABC written in the window. He said 'A is for Apple, B is for ball, C is for Cat and E is for Elephant'. It was so funny and very sweet. He told me he took six classes in English. It's the most English I've heard him speak in one go!

Both DJ and Abi went to sleep at 2.45 which is not what I planned, but DJ was so tired he couldn't keep his eyes open. I only let him sleep for 40 minutes because I was worried he wouldn't sleep at bedtime. I was right to be worried! It took me two and a half hours to get both children to sleep and by the time they were both asleep it was 10.30 and I was absolutely exhausted! Pen was late home too so we all had a very late night!!

We woke up this morning (Friday) at 7 p.m. I brought Abi into our bed and laid her between us with loads of toys and tried to close my eyes for 10 minutes more. A few minutes later DJ appeared in our room so chances of sleep after that were impossible! He was climbing all over everyone! So, I got up and started getting children washed, dressed, fed, usual routine :)

Dylan watched a bit of TV while I tidied up and then at about 10.30, I started getting things ready to go out. Pen dropped us at Melinda's house at 12 and we stayed there for lunch and a couple of hours play time. At quarter to 3, we all went in Mel's car to another lady, Kristen's house. There was a play group on from 3-5 p.m for under 4's. DJ had a brilliant time! The great thing about going all these different places is, he is getting more and more comfortable playing with other children and playing without checking that I'm there every 5 minutes! In fact, today at Kristen's house, he didn't even look for me once! I kept going to check on him but he was just really happy which was lovely!

Kristen lives in an apartment within the Golf Course and it is a beautiful place – both the grounds and the actual apartment. It's by far the loveliest apartment I have seen in India and is decorated really beautifully. It made me a bit sad that our apartment is still so bare and doesn't have anything in it! Although I am working on that! Since being here, I have bought the chests of drawers, a pair of long brown curtains, a stair gate and this evening I bought an oven! The lady selling it isn't leaving till the end of the month so I have a couple of weeks to wait for it but it'll be worth it just to be able to cook a roast or a casserole or even to grill things!

Our cargo has now left Mumbai and is en route to Delhi. You would think I would be jumping up and down for joy at this news but I must admit – I'm feeling very pessimistic about it. I guess I don't want to get my hopes up only to be sorely disappointed. At least I know it's somewhere on the way :)

Anyway, back to what I was saying – at 4.30 Kristen ordered me a taxi as we still don't have car seats for the car which means I can't drive and I still don't have a mobile, which means I couldn't call a taxi. The taxi finally turned up at 5.05 and we were the last ones to leave the play group. It took an hour and a half to get home because of the traffic and because of the distance to our apartment. We live on the other side of the highway to all the other apartment buildings so it's quite a distance to go, however, our apartment is on the same side of the big highway as Pen's office, which makes it easy for him to get to and from work. That's a real bonus as Penri hates commuting.

The taxi driver spoke excellent English and told me that his normal job was as a chauffeur for the Sheraton Hotel and he drove a Mercedes for them. He said when it is quiet at the hotel, he takes breaks and does taxi work to make extra money. Not sure how much I believed him on that note. He was chatting to me all the way home and he said something that I must write on here because it made me laugh. He said 'You need three things to drive in India … a good horn, a good head and lots of luck'. He followed it up by saying 'Anything is possible in India' which a few seconds later was just the case. One side of the dual carriageway was closed so all the traffic from the other side was driving head on towards us on the wrong side of the road! It was crazy and probably didn't help the traffic!

We got home and I made Dylan some dinner then I fed Abi and washed and dressed both the children for bed. I couldn't believe it was already 8 p.m! Abigail fell asleep immediately and then I took Dylan to his bedroom. Within 10 minutes he too was asleep. Exhausted after a very busy, very fun filled day. Looking forward to the weekend and spending some time as a family :)

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Wednesday 14th July

Abigail woke up this morning at 7 and she wasn't about to go back to sleep, so I got up too. She's such a happy baby even when she's first woken up! She doesn't cry, she just wakes up smiling and then is so happy with every little bit of attention you give her. So, when she woke up this morning we laid on the bed and played with some toys (mostly hers but a few of Dylan's too). I got out of bed at 8 and started getting ready to go out. Not me myself getting ready but getting things ready – the pushchair, the nappy bag, DJ's snack bag etc. I also looked up the hotel we were going to on google so I could get an idea of where it is.

We left home at 9.15 and Penri dropped us at the hotel where the weekly women's coffee morning was being held. When we walked in there was only Melinda there with her children (even though we were 20 minutes late). There was a small play area set up for the children which literally consisted of a play mat on the floor, a see-saw and a small rocking horse. That was it and it wasn't enclosed so I had to stand next to it the whole time. Even standing right next to it watching Dylan playing, he still ran out of the restaurant door a few times and I had to go running after him. As more ladies started to arrive, they sat at a large table at the back of the restaurant where you could have tea and pastries, however as I mentioned above, there was no chance of me sitting down whatsoever. The other mums were in the same position so I was stood with Melinda and another lady (Safiye) most of the time we were there.

After an hour and a half, I decided Dylan had had enough and it was time to leave. I asked one of the men at the concierge to order me a taxi. They told me they had hotel taxis and there were no outside ones available. A hotel taxi was going to cost me Rs.500 (about £8) which doesn't sound like much but for the distance I was travelling and the normal cost of taxis here, it was a lot. I asked if they could keep trying to get me an outside taxi, which luckily they did. It ended up costing me Rs. 130 which is a big difference to what I would've paid for the hotel taxi. Anyway, Dylan was very excited about riding in a shiny emerald green taxi. We got in the car and headed home. It was very hot as it was coming up to midday and both children were tired and hungry, as was I.

Getting home, I made lunch and settled Abigail down for a nap. DJ was tired but couldn't settle so we played in his room while Abi was sleeping. At 3 p.m Raj Kumar (our cleaner) came to do the cleaning and Dylan then started running around after him saying 'Kumar, Kumar, chase me'. It was so cute! Poor Raj Kumar was trying to get his work done and DJ just wanted to play!

I have found a new, super brilliant way to communicate with Raj Kumar as his English is very limited and my Hindi is non-existent. Penri and I had been talking at lunchtime about the day the cargo will be delivered (still no date yet, but hoping it will be in the next few days). We were both concerned about making sure all the boxes are delivered (and nothing has been taken) and also, making sure that Dylan doesn't seize the opportunity of having the front door open and lots of people about, to try and run outside! So, Pens and I agreed it would be a good idea to have Raj Kumar here for the day, just to be another pair of eyes on the children but mainly to occupy Dylan. I said I would speak to him but then it occurred to me … if I couldn't even get him to understand a simple thing such as 'clean the bathrooms', how on earth was I going to explain to him what I wanted to say. I had an excellent idea. I asked Raj Kumar if he could read Hindi, which he said he could. So, I went on Google, found a translation site and typed in what I wanted to say – that our cargo was arriving from England, not sure of the day but would he be able to come and spend the day here at the apartment; not to clean but to watch Dylan? He read it all and nodded (well, shook his head side to side) and said 'Yes Madam, no problem!' He seemed very happy about it too, which I am pleased about. I know he likes Dylan and more importantly Dylan seems to be very happy around him. Don't get me wrong – there is no way I would leave Dylan with him if I wasn't around, but I know that him being here on that day will help me a lot!!

While Raj Kumar was here, I also used the Hindi translation again to ask him if he could help me as I needed to pick up a radiator that I had bought from the lady in the next apartment block. I was unable to push the pushchair with both children in it and carry a small radiator. So, he came with us and we all went to pick it up. When we got back to the apartment, I was trying to put up a curtain in Abi's room and having no luck whatsoever. The curtain rails here are so difficult as you have to unscrew the rail from the bracket (with a screwdriver) and then unscrew it from the wall in order to put the curtains on. It's not easy and not helped by the fact that I don't have a step ladder so was standing on four plastic chairs in order to reach it. Raj Kumar helped me get the curtains hung up. I think he must think I am mad because I am forever doing bits and bobs around the apartment whereas most expats have live in help for things like that. Even the other day when I was measuring the living room for curtains, he kept trying to do it for me and I was telling him 'no problem, I can do it myself'. He has this high pitched laugh which he always does and it makes me smile every time! He loves it when I am on Skype because he is fascinated by the fact that I can talk to someone and see their video. He has seen my mum, my sister, Indeg, Debs, Sam … he always looks at it with a big grin on his face :)

Anyway, back to my day yesterday. After dinner, at about 6.30 I took the children swimming. We hadn't been for a couple of days so DJ was really excited to go swimming. We got into the pool and then the lifeguard came over to me and told me Abigail wasn't allowed in the pool. I looked at him confused. He said 'no children under 2 in the pool, she had to go in the baby pool'. I told him I have been here for four weeks and brought her swimming many, many times (most days in fact) and never had a problem before. He said it was new rules. I asked him to show me the rules and he shook his head from side to side. So, I said 'I'm not getting out, I'm only here for 15 minutes and then I'll be going home'. Then I moved to the other side of the pool. It's ridiculous!! He wanted me to take her in the baby pool which would mean I would have to sit in a couple of inches of water myself and not in the pool. How crazy!! There's no way I'm just going to sit in the baby pool! So, we'll see what happens next time I go swimming. If I have to kick up a stink about this, I will. They let children (some as young as 2) in the big pool without an adult in the water with them. Their nannies sit at the side of the pool. That is more dangerous than having a baby in your arms in the water. Anyway, will keep you posted on what happens!

I have a few more photos to post which I will do in a minute. Some are of out and about in India and I have a few pictures of the children. Dylan has really taken a liking to shoes – especially mine! He walks around the house in them saying 'DJ shoes!' I managed to get a picture of him this morning wearing my flip-flops. It cracks me up. He's so funny! I also have pictures of Abigail playing with Dylan's toys this morning. She likes her toys, but she LOVES his toys. I can see this being a problem when they are older. Even now he doesn't like sharing but he will share when I ask him to. They were playing in Dylan's room this morning and she was having a great time with his puzzles and cars:


























Pictures Out and About:


























That's about it from me today. Not much other news to report. It's been a nice and busy day and I'm looking forward to a nice early night tonight :)

Friday, July 9, 2010

Thursday 8th July

What a busy, busy day! Abigail has cut her first tooth!!! I was so excited when I saw it and then it all made sense. Yesterday, I thought I felt something but couldn't see anything but today I actually saw a little top of a tooth in the bottom of her mouth! It's so cute!

Dylan was behaving really boisterously in the morning – so much so that I was tempted not to go out. However, I thought that maybe once we got out he would calm down a bit. We left home at 12 o'clock and dropped Penri at work. We then went to a cash machine as I needed to get some money out (obviously). Tyagi took us to an office building and told me there was a Citi Bank inside. So, I took Abi and DJ (without the pushchair) as I didn't anticipate being very long and off we went. Dylan was wearing his new flip-flops as his trainers will still soaked through from last night. He kept taking his shoes off which was slowing us down a lot and I couldn't help him get them back on because I was carrying Abigail. So, the whole process of walking the few minutes to the ATM was a nightmare! When we eventually got there, there was a service guy filling up the machine. He told us it would be 5 minutes so we stood and waited. We waited and waited … and waited! After 20 minutes (and now running late to be at Melinda's house), I gave up waiting. We went back to the car and I asked Tyagi to drive us to Melinda's house.

We arrived at 12.45 and I told the driver we'd be finished between 3 and 4 but that I would call him when I was done. Melinda's apartment is lovely!! It's so spacious – I think she said it is 5,000 sq. feet! The other lady that I met at the coffee morning was there – Iben, who is from Denmark, with her little girl Karen. So, I took Dylan into Charlotte's playroom and left the three of them playing so I could sit in the living room with Melinda and Iben (and all the babies). Melinda has a four month old baby, Isobel and Iben has a six week old baby boy, Jacob. There were a couple of Ayas (I think that's the right word for nanny), in the room with the children so I wasn't too worried.

We sat and had tea and cake and chatted and it was really nice just to have some adult company. There were a few 'incidents' of the children not wanting to share toys etc etc. The normal thing that happens when young children are playing together. A while after we had been there, I heard Dylan screaming! I went in the playroom and the nanny told me that they were all playing in the wendy house and Dylan was blocking the door; Charlotte and Karen wanted to come out but couldn't get past him so Karen bit him on his arm. Quite hard too! A few minutes later after we had calmed everyone down and Karen had said sorry, I laid Abigail down for a nap and just as I was doing so, DJ pulled a full length mirror on top of himself! Luckily he wasn't too hurt and even luckier, it didn't break! At that point, I was thinking maybe we should go home. A few minutes later, he sat on the back of a pink dolls pram and fell backwards! It was then I thought, right I'd better go before he does any real damage!!

Melinda called Tyagi for me (as I still don't have a mobile phone) but there was no response and his mobile was unobtainable. She offered to lend me her driver to take me home. The funny thing is, that morning Melinda had gone to our apartment complex to have a look at some items that someone who is leaving Gurgaon, was selling. She had bought a few things and her driver was supposed to be picking them up tomorrow, but she phoned the lady and arranged to pick them up that afternoon instead. So, Raj, her driver took us home.

At 5 o'clock I had an appointment to meet the lady (the same one Melinda had been to see) to see the things she was selling. I bought some toys for the children, a ride on car (which is pink) for Abigail when she gets a bit bigger but mainly for Dylan for now until our cargo comes. I also bought two chests of drawers from her which I am going to pick up next week.

Dylan loves the ride on car and couldn't wait to ride on it when we got home. It was so cute, as soon as we got home he got out the pushchair and lifted the car off from behind his back (which was the only place I could put it so I could get the two children and the car home) and he said 'I got the car' and started grinning at me as he lifted it off the pushchair. He then got on the car and whizzed off down the corridor. I bought Abigail a couple of toys too, and a few puzzles for Dylan.

After playing with their new toys, I got the children ready for bed and then we vegged out in front of the television (well, tv programmes on the laptop!) I made Dylan a pasta with cheese, broccoli and cauliflower for dinner and then I put the children to bed at about 9.45. I then watched some tv and waited for Pen to come home so we could eat a late dinner.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Wednesday 7th July

I woke up this morning at 6.30 and tried to go back to sleep but I think Abigail sensed I was awake and she got up too. Then within half an hour Dylan came through as well. I didn't mind as I had wanted to be up early because I planned on taking the children to a coffee morning hosted by the expat club here. We got showered, dressed and had breakfast and Tyagi picked us up at 9.30. The event actually started at 9.30 but he was late in picking us and we arrived there at 10.

There must have been between 20 and 30 women there and I got chatting to quite a few. There was a lady there called Melinda who had her two children with her. A little girl, who is nearly 3 and then a 4 month old baby. She's really nice and has been in Delhi for 10 days (after moving here from Mumbai). She invited us to go over to her house tomorrow which I'm really looking forward to. It'll be nice for DJ to have Charlotte (her 3 year old) to play with. The event this morning was held in a beauty salon so there wasn't much for DJ and Charlotte to do. I had taken a bag of toys with me, but in the end they had more fun running around chasing each other. There were a few other babies there and it was nice to get chatting to some other expat women.

We came home at 12 and the traffic was horrendous! Abigail fell asleep on my shoulder in the car and DJ was also extremely tired. Not too tired to tell me what he wanted for lunch though. While we were sitting in traffic, he asked me for chicken nuggets (or muggas as he calls them) and chips (he has no problem saying that word!). When we got in I made his lunch straight away and then he went to sleep. It's now 3.30 and they're both asleep so I'm enjoying my quiet time. Will be back later to write more …

Yesterday afternoon the kids woke up at 4 and we played in my bedroom for a while. Raj Kumar came and cleaned and then after he left we went for a walk. I was going to take the children swimming but we were having a bad thunderstorm so we went for a walk in the rain instead. We went to the shop first and then over to the playground. On the way back we played at being Peppa Pig and jumped in all the puddles. I figured we were went through anyway and we were going home to shower and get ready for bed so we may as well enjoy the puddles. Dylan loved it!

I got the children ready for bed and then started the wind down routine. It took ages to get them settled last night and they weren't asleep till 9 (for Abi) and about 9.45 (for DJ).

Abigail has really started moving around now. I have had to start placing her on the floor because the bed is just not safe for her any more. I lay a big towel down and place her in the middle but she can now roll over (and over and over), turn herself completely around 3600 and she's started wiggling forward on her bottom! I know I've said this so many times before but I cannot wait for our cargo to arrive!!!

DJ is doing great! He had a couple of phone conversations yesterday. One with Nan, one with Daddy and one with someone else. I've no idea who the third one was so if you phoned us and got DJ, I apologise! He was chattering away to somebody!

Thank you so much Laura for the lovely parcel! It was like Christmas when we opened it. DJ was so excited to get into it and find out what was inside. It was really funny because everything we took out the parcel, he kept saying 'for DJ, for DJ' and looking up at me. I was trying not to laugh as I explained that some things were for Abi and some were for mummy. He replied with a very serious face saying 'no mummy'. That was only until he saw the name plaques and he realised the pink one was Abi's and the blue one was his without me even saying so.

Anyway, I have to go now and get on with things but will write more tomorrow :)